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Are you and your fiancé compatible?

By Priscilla Rodriguez, M.S., LMFT, owner of Modern Wellness Counseling

Photography by: Nancy Rodriguez with JNR Photo and Video / Written by: Priscilla Rodriguez
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Are you and your fiancé compatible?

When I first meet with couples who are in the early stages of their relationship (i.e. dating, engaged, newlyweds) they often want to know if they are compatible and if their relationship will “make it.”

There are many different areas of a relationship in which compatibility will play out, but the more serious question is knowing that the two of you will be able to co-exist together without engaging in conflict all the time. Be aware that there will be some sort of conflict or disagreements in your relationship, and this does not mean you are not compatible, it means you both are two individual people with two different perceptions. Know that this is normal, and you can find out more about managing conflict by going here.

Here are some ways to know that you and your fiancé are compatible:

  • You share a mutual commitment to your relationship
    • It’s not so much being on the same page about every little thing but committing to working together to meet in the middle.
  • You can turn to your partner in need and trust they will be there for you
    • Sharing your thoughts and being vulnerable in a relationship, is what will lead to increasing trust and security.
  • You share the same common goals and/or can support each other’s goals
    • This is a good one to discuss especially when it comes to money! One partner wants to save and get out of debt, while the other wants to travel the world. A couple like this can still be compatible, but both partners must know they need to compromise and find a middle ground.
  • You share and practice similar core values
    • Do you know your own core values? Have you been able to share these with each other? Which core values play out daily for you?
  • Do you have similar political views?
    • If you answered no, no need to panic! About 38% of households have different political views. This is a time to learn from your partner and to understand what led him or her to have a certain belief, not a time to say you are right and your partner is wrong.
  • The best part of you comes out when you are around each other
    • You feel confident and most comfortable when you are around your partner.
  • You are attracted to each other, physically, sexually, and intellectually
    • This helps in the maintenance of being interested in your partner in the long-run.
  • You share an understanding of roles you want in your relationship
    • Are you hoping to have a more traditional relationship or more egalitarian? Have you discussed what this would look like in your relationship?

If you would like to learn more about your combability, I encourage you to check out one of my premarital packages! You and your fiancé will take a 480 questionnaire that will survey all aspects of your relationship to learn your strengths and areas of improvement! My different online relationship classes will also walk you through different relationships skills to understand your compatibility.

 

By Priscilla Rodriguez, M.S., LMFT, owner of Modern Wellness Counseling
Priscilla specializes in working with engaged couples by helping them to develop a solid foundation for their marriage and discuss expectations.

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